tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32212161.post8871217065250523281..comments2023-12-12T09:29:10.484-05:00Comments on Shaalom 2 Salaam: A Muslimah's Journey Along the Way From Judaism to Islam: Letters to a Bullied GirlSafiyyahhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07670659439981133346noreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32212161.post-63080717213688839972008-11-10T12:19:00.000-05:002008-11-10T12:19:00.000-05:00Hello Hidden Sage:Welcome!Wow, I really agree with...Hello Hidden Sage:<BR/><BR/>Welcome!<BR/><BR/>Wow, I really agree with that article. Being a substance abuse counselor, I understand the concept of the "reward center" in the brain.<BR/><BR/>Bullying can give the person a sense of power which is very exhilirating and additive. It also gives the person the illusion of being in control.<BR/><BR/>When did I move from bullying? Well, as a recovering addict, I moved from the bullying of childhood to victimizing people when I became an adult and when I started to use drugs. When I committed criminal acts to obtain drugs or money for drugs, it served two purposes: to give the ways and means to get high, and also a sense of empowerment - like the feeling that the people I was victimizing were suckers and weak people. Why? Because in reality, it was ME who was weak and strung out. It was ME who was the sucker. In my recovery group, I learned that "hurt people hurt people." That insight was an epifany (spelling/yuk) for me! Being in recovery gives the addict a new level of spirituality and imaan. Alhamdulillah! Insha Allah what I have written makes sense!Safiyyahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07670659439981133346noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32212161.post-62254631398179933892008-11-10T03:00:00.000-05:002008-11-10T03:00:00.000-05:00Wow, your letter to Janet was a shocker. When/how...Wow, your letter to Janet was a shocker. When/how did you move on from the bully mentality?<BR/><BR/>Check this out:<BR/>http://blogs.discovermagazine.com/80beats/2008/11/07/teenage-bullies-are-rewarded-with-pleasure-brain-scans-show/Hidden Sagehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17329789862258019709noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32212161.post-58669946484162504602008-11-06T16:34:00.000-05:002008-11-06T16:34:00.000-05:00@ Sonya:Welcome! Yes, Allah (swt) forgive me, I d...@ Sonya:<BR/><BR/>Welcome! Yes, Allah (swt) forgive me, I did exactly what I wrote in my letter to her. After reading the book, it was cathartic and healing for me to write a letter to the girl who I bullied. Insha Allah she will see this letter someday. One never knows! If she "googles" her name, she will come across it.Safiyyahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07670659439981133346noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32212161.post-25672907536426017802008-11-06T12:07:00.000-05:002008-11-06T12:07:00.000-05:00Is this true? Did you Really bully that girl? If y...Is this true? Did you Really bully that girl? If you did and wrote that letter, then well done for writing it sis :)Sonyahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08519985096960602457noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32212161.post-50234091344790175062008-11-05T15:02:00.000-05:002008-11-05T15:02:00.000-05:00Salam wa alaykum sisI've read a few Margaret Atwoo...Salam wa alaykum sis<BR/><BR/>I've read a few Margaret Atwood's books especially cat's eyes. A Good read. Thank you for the informative blog!Big Sishttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12090078328723403621noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32212161.post-46928066785523124402008-10-20T09:24:00.000-04:002008-10-20T09:24:00.000-04:00Salaams SisRead Margaret Atwood's Cat's Eyes. It d...Salaams Sis<BR/><BR/>Read Margaret Atwood's Cat's Eyes. It deals with bullying and is an extremely chilling read.<BR/><BR/>SSaalehahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12607453476839291138noreply@blogger.com